I have come to terms that most people mean what they say. Confessing their intentions to provide services in business or even as simple as meeting for coffee is all in good will. Before I divulge any further on this topic you'll notice my frustration throughout the blog. So why is it so difficult to follow through? Is this concept slanted because of our own selfishness, and preoccupations? Looking back into time and realizing we are a species of survival and personal interests, you have to wonder. Entertaining the mentality and extending the benefit of doubt in our daily lives is a model I try and live by. Tapping into the importance of communication amongst us leads me to my next point.
Working in communications at the Fire Department and new business owner, the task and duty of effectively broadcasting my message is sometimes misunderstood. Being aware of varying personality traits, emotions, habits, needs, and values create quite the barrier to accomplishing my goal(s). As much of these dynamics affect overall desire, TRUST creates an even thicker barrier. By interacting with those in friendships, business clientele, work, and family, all co-exist in similar ways, and engage through different platforms of trust. Is it rational to believe that this is attainable on all levels?? As trust opens lines of healthy communication, it doesn’t seem to be completely out of reach… all I’m asking is for some form of effort. Whether it’s a text (which now a days is seen as a crutch in my eyes), phone call, e-mail, or a letter for Pete’s sake! Can we take a few moments out of our day to extend this courtesy? Is it too much to ask?
I welcome your thoughts, and appreciate your time.
“Start with good people, lay out the rules, communicate with your employees, motivate them and reward them. If you do all of those things effectively, you can’t miss.” ~ Lee Lacocca
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Hey Mark,
ReplyDeleteWell on this post, I can only comment on my life and it's fitting because I haven't talked to you in forever.
People do tend to mean what they say, but some people also have A LOT going on. It's not an excuse, it's life.
The way I handle these types of situations is to assume that people are doing the best they can in the moment, even and especially if that doesn't involve me. They are not trying to be rude, they are doing their best for their situation.
I think it's also about discernment. For the people you really care about and are close to, you keep trying to reconnect. For the others, at some point you might realize that it's just not that big of a deal. You don't have to be everyone's best friend.
I hope this even makes sense and I will try to respond to more of your entries. I like them!
Talk to you soon,
Molly